Mother Crashes Son’s Vacation, Demanding Daughter-In-Law Cook Dinner and Work on Her Time Off, Son Insists Mom Leaves in Response

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Nov 5, 2024 10:00 PM EST

We all know that feeling when you know you're going on vacation soon and count down the days until you finally get to relax. We also know how crucial it is for your mental health that the vacation will give you exactly what you need—some peace and quiet.

My husband and I, for example, are going on vacation in exactly 13 days, 10 hours, and… 22 minutes, and every single thought I have that is unrelated to work, is dedicated to this trip and everything about it.

That is why my heart goes out to the woman in this Reddit story, who was so looking forward to a vacation away from work, only for it to be ruined by her husband and in-laws. For weeks, she had been planning a quiet vacation at her grandparents' cabin, only to find out that her husband had invited his father, which caused his mother to tag along. The mother then decided to put her DIL to work, getting her to cook dinner for the family, which the DIL refused. Her husband, the one who wrote the story, stood up to his mother but still got blamed for creating this awkward situation in the first place.

Scroll down to read the full story. Up next, click here for a story of a woman who regretted becoming a surrogate to her sister-in-law.

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  • 01
    My wife had no plans to entertain her. I told my mom that. My mom bought stuff for lunch and dinner and tried to engage my wife into making dinner for us all and my wife said no. She's relaxing and reading. If my mom wanted to cook that's my mom's prerogative.
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    AITA for telling my mom she's was an unwanted guest?
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    My wife has had a stressful time at work and was looking forward to a vacation at her grandparents cabin. She brought a few books she wanted to read and I brought my fishing rod.
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    She had no plans to entertain. My dad stopped by to go fishing. It was supposed to be just my dad stopping by for the day but somehow my mom inserted herself and I was shocked to see her.
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    My wife had no plans to entertain her. I told my mom that. My mom bought stuff for lunch and dinner and tried to engage my wife into making dinner for us all and my wife said no. She's relaxing and
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    reading. If my mom wanted to cook that's my mom's prerogative. My dad and I get back late and at the table my mom started to
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    complain how she did this all herself. I looked at my wife who just took her plate and ate in her room. My mom started to complain to me about it and I told my mom “she technically
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    wasn't invited and my wife had no expectations to entertain her in my wife's cabin while my wife is on vacation" My mom started saying well she wouldn't have came if she knew
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    that. I told my mom next time take the hint. If you aren't invited don't come. My parents left after dinner. My mom complained that my wife
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    should have tried to be a gracious hostess and I said maybe my mom should try not being an unwanted guest.
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    JJBrazman 2d ago • Edited 2d ago • INFO: So you invited your dad, but not your mum? How did that conversation go down? Could your dad have reasonably gotten the impression they were both invited? Was your dad invited for dinner? Edit: NTA, but in future it's on you to maintain boundaries with your mother.
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    Wrong_Basket_6811 OP • 2d ago My dad was invited fishing. There was no dinner plans. My mom got in the car and thought my wife would have a girls day with her because my sisters fall for that sh. My wife doesn't and has no chill.
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    • empathy10 2d ago • Congrats to your wife for actually prioritizing her wants and not succumbing to the pressure to entertain and host.
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    Wrong_Basket_6811 OP • 2d ago • My mom thinks reading is boring so she thought she was doing my wife a favor. My mom has never got it through her head that some people read for fun.
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    perfectpomelo3 • 2d ago • A hole Aficionado [10] INFO: did your dad invite her?
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    Wrong_Basket_6811 OP.2d ago • My mom told my dad it will be a "fun girl's day"
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    giantbrow... 2d ago Edited 2d ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [47] ESH. Once your mom showed up, you needed to make it clear to her that your wife wasn't there to entertain her. By leaving your wife to deal with your mom you added to the awkwardness of the situation. Your
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    mom is a bigger a_h_le for just showing up uninvited because your dad was there. But irrespective of that, you should have done more to preserve your wife's peace before leaving with your dad.
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    EDIT TO CLARIFY: I'm only judging OP and his mom. I don't think wife or dad did anything to contribute to the judgement.
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    Wrong_Basket_6811 OP • 2d ago • My wife said nope and went to her room and read all day. My mom was like because she pulls this sh with my sister and they will bend over to all my mom's wishes and demands.
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    gordiesgoodies •2d ago • Part ipant [1] Maaate. YTA. Your first paragraph tells you, YTA. Your wife has had a stressful time at work. The trip to the cabin is an escape for her - no finger lifting, no hosting. So what do you do? You invite your dad. Knowing from past experience your
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    mom will likely jump in because as you say, she does this All The Time. And then you leave the two of them to it because you and your dad r "gone fishin'". Bet you two had a great time. And then you come back to find your wife has been made to feel uncomfortable and restricted in her own family's place. Again, knowing that your
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    mom invites herself and behaves this way "all the time". Drama ensues. How restful for your wife. You blame your mom for all this, get a few digs in. Dude wipe the dirt and denial off that mirror, that's You staring back at yourself. You're to blame.
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    no_good_namez • 2d ago Supreme Court [117] ESH except your wife. You invited your dad, he brought your mom, and you left your wife to deal with her. You should have brought your mom fishing or sent both parents home.
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    analyst19 2d ago • Supreme Court [147] NTA, next time don't ask your dad to come either.
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